My Daughter is Missing

 

GEM

 

 

True Story

I have a missing little girl.  I haven’t seen her in almost 2 years.  Her mom took her away because she didn’t like that I was divorcing her.  My daughter and I were very close and she saw and understood the world through my eyes and believed in everything I told her. Her eyes always looked up to mine for approval and she always had a smile that made her eyes twinkle. Her mother took her away and she still has her somewhere in Singapore.  Her mother used lies and manipulation to destroy my daughter’s happiness and our relationship. She had help from friends to assist in making false allegations. My daughter was used heavily to lie and she cried because it hurt her to say terrible things.  She was forced to tell me, her father that she didn’t want to see me ever again. The last few times I saw her, she was like an empty shell. She went from full of joy and energy to a withdrawn and depressed child while her mother watched sternly to make sure I got what she believed, I deserved.  I am making inroads to finding her but then there is a major hurdle to overcome, the legal system.  A good legal system would have punished anyone doing what my daughter’s mom was doing but what went wrong?

I became an alleged child abuser all of a sudden.  My ex simply had to say that and everything changed. The judge, despite having no more than an allegation, stripped me of all visitation rights.  My ex then used this to brainwash my daughter and things never improved.  There were lots of details and allegations that continued and plots became more intricate and twisted.  What the reader needs to know is that there was never a single bit of evidence to support these claims.  There was no prior history, there was no proof whatsoever.  Every police officer, social worker and investigator found no credible proof and quickly dismissed all allegations.  The judge was slow to change his mind.  As a result, my ex abducted my daughter to her homeland in Singapore.  She has been in hiding ever since.  I will not give up and I will find my daughter.

What can be done?

Child custody is governed by laws designed to protect children but by the time these laws are in effect in the courtroom, they are diminished by parent’s selfishness and a lawyer’s savvy.  The children are often left victimized by their parents and the court systems worldwide.  Relying on the court system is probably not the answer.  I lost my daughter because of it.  

I can only stress to other parents that and to all individuals with a sense of morals and logic.  Don’t hook up with the wrong person.  Don’t have kids if your partner isn’t as good or better than you at being a good role model.  In a relationship, there is no room for hate and anger.  Don’t be with someone that will do this to you.

If you are going to divorce or have a child custody issue, make sure that the children are first and everything else, yourself and partner included, are a far and distant second.  Make your life around your child and above all, make the children see how peaceful and loving you both can be despite the differences.  If the other party is looking to abuse your rights as a good parent, make it a big deal to the judge.  Don’t let a child’s right to have a good parent be ruined!

I believe that kids are God’s gift and He loves us like we love our own children.  If we allow, hate, selfishness, greed, and all of those negative aspects of our lives have control then you have chosen your path in life.  So how can we do this right? Forgive. Ask for forgiveness.  If we cannot do this simple step then we are doing worse what was done against us.

Be active in voicing concern for kids everywhere.  The legal system needs a serious overhaul and so does society.  We allow terrible things to happen to children.  We propagate all the things we consider wrong and we do it to our own kids.  It is difficult to have a system or a set of rules to change the legal system or society.  However, if everyone learned to teach what is proper, that could go further than any law.  In a legal setting, all efforts should be exercised to try to correct malice and abuse. Let the judge know staight out what you think is going on and always emphasize what the kids need best.  Forget what the attorneys say, you are a parent with better knowledge of your child than an attorney.  A child needs good and loving parents.  A parent that doesn’t meet this criteria simply needs help not segregation.

In life, all it takes is being nice, talking without vulgarity, forgiving, and seeing the good in all things, this can make a big difference.  After all, in a child’s world, things are simple.  Why shouldn’t they be!?

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