It is my feeling that she was told that I had disappeared from her life because when she laid her eyes on me, she broke down in tears as if a heavy weight was lifted from her. It was a sight that shook me to my core because she could not contain herself and could not handle seeing me again. I was told that she had a lot of emotional trauma and would need time to heal. It was suggested that I let her go and live my own life. She needed this time to grow and find stability and with hope, she would be ready some day to see me.

I am still learning to let go and my eyes tear as I write this because it has hurt me. I am trying to find and live a normal life and the only strength that has kept me going is finding faith in God. I say this because there is nothing in this world is stronger then His love. I was told that my love for my little girl is like the love of our Father to us. Knowing this makes me understand and brings me calm. These days, I am learning to fill this emptiness with God’s guidance and I am becoming content and happy to be back in Father’s path.

Am I giving up?  No.

I have given up hope without faith. I cannot change the world but I can only pray and help what is within my power. I have learned to be a better Christian by becoming stronger faith.

Thankfully, there are many scriptures and lessons in the Bible that I draw strength from. I am including this from Matthew, chapter 5.

The Beatitudes
Now when he saw the crowds, he went up on a mountainside and sat down. His disciples came to him, and he began to teach them saying:

“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled.

Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.

Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.

Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God.

Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.”

What I learned from my studies so far is that Jesus understands more than we do and that if we rest on His teachings then we can find the answer.  I know we find a lot of injustice in the world and in my case, injustice towards children. When we pray, pray for guidance and study what you have in your life and what abilities you have because we have what we need in our lives and with guidance, we can do wonderful things that are good for us and each other.

My heart feels heavy because I miss my daughter.  She was my best friend and I love her now as I loved her before.  My emptiness is being filled with God’s love and guidance.

I have a lot to learn both a just a human being and as a Christian.  When I someday see my daughter again, I should hope that my daughter sees that I still love her and that I have a lot to teach her and a lot to learn from her.

I pray often, I have spent 3 years fighting and spent most of my money fighting.  Recently, I realized that there has to be a better way. I must give up to have hope.

I prayed and then there was a message, a strong message that said, “she is still your daughter.”  Then there was renewed hope.  What I am considering giving up is the legal battle to bring her back. I decided to approach the abductor and ask for dialogue and an agreement. There hasn’t been a response but I pray that my ex will allow for my daughter to communicate with me.  She will be 10 years old in May.  I wish to ask what she would like her daddy to take her on her birthday then deliver it in person and with all of my love.

I wish to compromise by giving up the legal battle, I wish to establish a new relationship with my daughter and then be able to visit her.  I wish to be able to talk to her on a regular basis because her voice always filled my heart. I wish to know her thoughts and remind her to brush her teeth at night.  I wish to see her and see her smiling.

Pray that I can achieve this modest goal.

David Goldman

I pray that other parents not behave selfishly or like criminals and seek peace instead.  That love can heal all things and problems however big if we allow it.  I pray that we treat children as gifts from God and always praise them as such.

Happy Valentine’s Day and remember that friendship is also love.

Merry Christmas to everyone else and pray for my daughter and for all kids around the world.  Don’t forget to be less serious next year and enjoy being young at heart.

daddy

I have learned that to attack evil it is best to be humble, meek and honest.  If anyone wishes to be Christian, you have to be this first.  This is what I am learning to appreciate.

My situation with my daughter isn’t over and will never be over.  I am not living a normal life and I am giving thanks to God because He still believes in me and in me He has a believer.  ”I am not perfect before you, Father, I wish to be weak and understand your love.”

To my daughter,  I love you and your heart is in mine.  It is unfortunate that you have to go through this but I pray that God has you in his own heart.  You represent love as the same love our Father has for all of us.  I am happy and proud to be your father.  Nothing makes me happier than the memory of you in my life.

Love,

Daddy

She has been taught to hate from her mother.  During our marriage, her mother express hate and anger with no limits and to no end.  Her threat to me if I ever left her way to destroy my daughter and make her an instrument of hate to which she had succeeded, so far.

In all of this, I pray to or Father that there is frustration in my heart.  That He protect my daughter and in time, that we reunite in happiness.  That her mother somehow be touched and change her ways.  No child should be taught to hate, especially from their own parent.

Hate and anger are very powerful and are embedded in us.  So is love and in love I believe in.  Love in our lives is as close as family, friendship, and as small as a kind gesture or a smile.  Love exists and it does so for my daughter.  I remember her thinking that I was the greatest dad and she always proud of me as I was with her. God knows what her mother has done to her to break her down and make her so resentful.

For now, my daughter refuses to talk to me.  Her family ins Singapore encourage her to be resentful. Despite all this, I place it in God’s hands.  I will be a good father to my daughter and I will pray and wish for the best.

I pray that after reading this, you will pray for all children in this world that suffer from the cruelness of others.  They are here to reinforce our love but think about the state of mankind when it turns against their own children.  Who are we in God’s eyes?  Pray and forgive.

I was elated when I heard this news.  I’ve had 2 days of restless energy and hardly any sleep.  I look like a wreck already.  I am grateful that I have been able to finally accomplish something.  I give thanks to God and know that I will deserve what is best for me.  I am not seeking possession of my daughter out of spite or control.  I am seeking to protect her, to allow her experience life without fear and teach right and wrong. Her life should be without concern and should be filled with joy and happiness.  

It seems like my ex will continue to exploit her and fight me.  I will pray that God tames her anger and aggression and seeks peace.  My daughter could have an opportunity to have 2 homes in this world and grow with knowledge from 2 distant lands.

I will continue to seek a way to effectively protect all kids regardless of what happens with my case.  In fact, I recently learned that there is a case of divorce where a 16 year old is being subjected to the same type of abuse and control from her mother.  I learned that the dad isn’t doing to well emotionally.  This child has confided in her aunt and told her how scarred she is of her mother.  Unfortunately, this is happening too much.  This world needs children that are born with the strength of love, forgiveness and peace.

I will update with any news.  I maybe traveling a grueling 23 hour flight to Singapore sometime soon.  For now, I will pray for this to have a happy ending.  I will also pray for my new friend Lisa Jong.  I thank you for your spiritual guidance.  You have been blessed and I hold high in appreciation.

GEM

True Story

I have a missing little girl.  I haven’t seen her in almost 2 years.  Her mom took her away because she didn’t like that I was divorcing her.  My daughter and I were very close and she saw and understood the world through my eyes and believed in everything I told her. Her eyes always looked up to mine for approval and she always had a smile that made her eyes twinkle. Her mother took her away and she still has her somewhere in Singapore.  Her mother used lies and manipulation to destroy my daughter’s happiness and our relationship. She had help from friends to assist in making false allegations. My daughter was used heavily to lie and she cried because it hurt her to say terrible things.  She was forced to tell me, her father that she didn’t want to see me ever again. The last few times I saw her, she was like an empty shell. She went from full of joy and energy to a withdrawn and depressed child while her mother watched sternly to make sure I got what she believed, I deserved.  I am making inroads to finding her but then there is a major hurdle to overcome, the legal system.  A good legal system would have punished anyone doing what my daughter’s mom was doing but what went wrong?

I became an alleged child abuser all of a sudden.  My ex simply had to say that and everything changed. The judge, despite having no more than an allegation, stripped me of all visitation rights.  My ex then used this to brainwash my daughter and things never improved.  There were lots of details and allegations that continued and plots became more intricate and twisted.  What the reader needs to know is that there was never a single bit of evidence to support these claims.  There was no prior history, there was no proof whatsoever.  Every police officer, social worker and investigator found no credible proof and quickly dismissed all allegations.  The judge was slow to change his mind.  As a result, my ex abducted my daughter to her homeland in Singapore.  She has been in hiding ever since.  I will not give up and I will find my daughter.

What can be done?

Child custody is governed by laws designed to protect children but by the time these laws are in effect in the courtroom, they are diminished by parent’s selfishness and a lawyer’s savvy.  The children are often left victimized by their parents and the court systems worldwide.  Relying on the court system is probably not the answer.  I lost my daughter because of it.  

I can only stress to other parents that and to all individuals with a sense of morals and logic.  Don’t hook up with the wrong person.  Don’t have kids if your partner isn’t as good or better than you at being a good role model.  In a relationship, there is no room for hate and anger.  Don’t be with someone that will do this to you.

If you are going to divorce or have a child custody issue, make sure that the children are first and everything else, yourself and partner included, are a far and distant second.  Make your life around your child and above all, make the children see how peaceful and loving you both can be despite the differences.  If the other party is looking to abuse your rights as a good parent, make it a big deal to the judge.  Don’t let a child’s right to have a good parent be ruined!

I believe that kids are God’s gift and He loves us like we love our own children.  If we allow, hate, selfishness, greed, and all of those negative aspects of our lives have control then you have chosen your path in life.  So how can we do this right? Forgive. Ask for forgiveness.  If we cannot do this simple step then we are doing worse what was done against us.

Be active in voicing concern for kids everywhere.  The legal system needs a serious overhaul and so does society.  We allow terrible things to happen to children.  We propagate all the things we consider wrong and we do it to our own kids.  It is difficult to have a system or a set of rules to change the legal system or society.  However, if everyone learned to teach what is proper, that could go further than any law.  In a legal setting, all efforts should be exercised to try to correct malice and abuse. Let the judge know staight out what you think is going on and always emphasize what the kids need best.  Forget what the attorneys say, you are a parent with better knowledge of your child than an attorney.  A child needs good and loving parents.  A parent that doesn’t meet this criteria simply needs help not segregation.

In life, all it takes is being nice, talking without vulgarity, forgiving, and seeing the good in all things, this can make a big difference.  After all, in a child’s world, things are simple.  Why shouldn’t they be!?

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